What is your version of a trauma?
Below is a definition of trauma according to Webster’s.
Definition of trauma
plural traumas also traumata play \ˈtrȯ-mə-tə also ˈtrau̇-\
1a : an injury (such as a wound) to living tissue caused by an extrinsic agent
b : a disordered psychic or behavioral state resulting from severe mental or emotional stress or physical injury
c : an emotional upset
the personal trauma of an executive who is not living up to his own expectations
—Karen W. Arenson
2: an agent, force, or mechanism that causes trauma
I’m not an expert, not trained as a physician, psychologist in any way. I am an informed individual with my own experiences and opinions.
Not everyone can label their experience as a trauma. It depends on the circumstances and the individual.
A bodily trauma for example may be different for a child whether male or female. We all have different pain receptors, personalities, life experiences that shape us. For example, if a toddler falls and hits her head, she will look to the parent for their reaction. If the parent responds calmly, then the child will most likely define her experience as not that big of a deal and return to play. But if the parent were to rush to the child excitedly and panicked, then the child will react with a more anxiety filled response. The toddler thinks it must be a big deal, she reacts based on the people around her by crying and making a fuss. These two experiences I described can shape these girls’ personalities just that little bit different.
This was just one example to explain a point. We are all different, and will respond differently to events in our lives, based on our upbringing, personality, and genetics. Everyone will react differently. Because we are so unique, we don’t always fit into a category.
To me the definition of trauma should be:
Any physical or emotional event (no matter how small or large), where an individual experiences physical or emotional distress. Examples: controlled, verbally abused, teased, bullied, sickness.
It is very important after a traumatic event to be able to get your emotions and feelings expressed either/both verbally through communication or emotionally by crying etc. Being able to forgive others for any wrong doing is very important for you to be able to heal and move forward. Suppressing these emotions and feelings can manifest in other ways over time eg. Anxiety, depression, substance abuse etc. Especially if you continue to do this over and over again.
Don’t measure yourself by anyone else. You are a unique individual. If an event has caused you a sufficient upset according to you, be sure to find ways to release it and discuss it with someone. It’s okay to voice your opinion and cry. Don’t hold it in for fear of judgement and non-acceptance.
If you have experienced trauma in any way and still haven’t released it, consider making an appointment with me to help you release some of your blockages. I work with a number of people who have experienced trauma in some form. We work at your own pace and comfort level.